I think sex, on one level, was created to bring us closer together, something like the primordial equivalent of talking about the weather.*Sex can cause love to blossom where it wouldn’t have blossomed otherwise, and I think that’s beautiful.
On the flip side, sex brings us closer to someone whether we want it to or not. It’s hard to “untangle” from someone when you have a sexual relationship. This, for me, more than any concept of romance, seems to be a good argument for being picky about who you sleep with.
I think sex is beautiful and spiritual and romantic, and also a physical need. I think there’s no particular duality here.
I think it’s absolutely, incredibly beautiful that we have a physical need to do something that causes us to form bonds and become closer together. I think it’s beautiful that we can help each other out in fulfilling that need. I think it’s wonderful that deep friendship, partnership, love and connection can result from that.
I also think a lot of people put the cart before the horse somehow. Or is that just me?
*You can poke holes in this example all you like, but I happen to like it. Imagine talking about the weather HARD and DEEP until reaching hights of ecstasy and deep loving connection. Or maybe talking about other things. I don’t know. Well, sex is just better at bringing us close than talking is, but it’s kind of the same thing in different degrees. You get what I mean. Don’t you? Yes you do.