Me and my girlfriend* decided to do some research and get to the root of the matter. What’s the best method for birth control? How can we enjoy sex without numbing the sensations with latex or doing violence against her body with drugs? (Photo taken from Wikipedia — Rue – a herb used as a natural contraceptive method)
*In case you are wondering I am transsexual; when I originally wrote this article I was still living as a man.
My girlfriend decided a while ago that she wasn’t interested in taking contraceptive pills anymore.
I feel intuitively that it’s a pretty violent thing to halt a body’s natural cycle using hormones — though I don’t know of any studies on the topic I can quote. I’m sure there are a lot more things that happen than can be seen on the surface when you do something like that. And I’m also sure that the pharmaceutical industry is invested in making sure that people don’t find about these things.
It can suck to use condoms all the time. We wanted to have it all – condom free sex and no contraceptive pills.
The Thermometer Contraceptive Method
So I found out about the thermometer method from a bit of searching about online. It’s very easy and very cheap.
The thermometer method of contraception involves using a thermometer to work out when you (or your girlfriend) are ovulating and therefore when you are fertile. You can have unprotected sex and finish inside for about three weeks of every month, and then during one week you use condoms or some other contraceptive method.
My girlfriend went to the doctor to inquire about her options and the doctor strongly recommended her against the thermometer method. Of course she did – her education was controlled by the pharmaceutical industry, and no-one’s getting rich by selling thermometers.
Through some astute googling, I found out that the rather shaky arguments our doctor gave to us against the thermometer contraceptive method were bunk. Annual failure rates are between 15% and 2%, with 2% being what happens when you use the thermometer method *well* and don’t screw around. Hardly the condemnation to unplanned pregnancy hell our doctor suggested.
For comparison, Wikipedia says the condom method of contraception has a 15% failure rate normally and a 2% failure rate when done perfectly. The contraceptive pill has a 8% failure rate normally and a 0.2% failure rate when done perfectly. Finally contraception by “coitus interruptus” or the pull out method has a 25% failure rate normally and a 3% failure rate when done perfectly.
Benefits Of The Thermometer Contraceptive Method
The benefits of the thermometer contraceptive method:
1. It’s cheap
2. It’s effective
3. The quality of sex is maximum – no discomfort as with condoms or the pull-out method
4. It’s natural.
The Thermometer Method is Natural
I have a friend who knows just by being in touch with her body whenever she is ovulating. I suspect that any girl can learn to know, especially if they use a thermometer to find out to start with.
Most other methods cause problems because they are just not what the human body is made for. On the other hand, knowing when you’re ovulating and avoiding sex on those days is a built in capability.
If sex were only about getting pregnant, women would only get turned on when they were ovulating. But this is just not the case. My conclusion is that we’re made to have sex without necessarily getting pregnant, and that it’s natural for us to avoid pregnancy when not desired.
Natural may not be the definition of healthy but it’s the closest thing there is to one. The further we get from nature, the less healthy and happy we become.
How To Use The Thermometer Contraceptive Method
I don’t intend this post to be about HOW to use the thermometer method of contraception — I mostly just wanted to let you know it existed. Try googling around to get more information on it. To get you off on the right track, I’ll offer you one website which I found useful on the matter.
Another tip I will give is: Avoid people that use fear tactics to try and smudge the reputation of the thermometer method.
There’s a lot of money behind people thinking that they need to buy pills or condoms to control pregnancy. But the facts are the facts: the thermometer method is statistically as effective as condoms, so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
(No method is fail safe by the way, so I refuse any responsibility, legal or otherwise, if you happen to have any accidents after using any of the information in this post).
Rue as a Contraceptive Method
Through googling around, I also found out about rue as a contraceptive method. Rue is a herb which smells like a combination of marijuana and coconut, and can be used to bring about abortions.
For this reason it’s illegal in many countries — and possibly for a good reason, as I’m not sure what it’d be like to have a homemade abortion using this herb. In Spain you can’t buy it in herbal stores, but you can buy the plant in plant/flower shops for ornamental reasons.
We have a couple of rue plants in our house which we keep just in case. The idea is to use it if we’re not sure at some point – aborting a 2-day-old fetus isn’t dangerous and is probably not immoral*. I would put some more study in if we were to use it to abort a more developed fetus though, and I will really recommend you do so too.
*Regarding morality: I am of the “spiritual but not religious” school. I remain unsure what I believe about killing a 2-day-old fetus. I hear from some sources that the soul only enters the fetus after the first trimester or so. My other question is whether the soul has made any plans or contracts which we are violently putting to an end by killing the 2-day-old fetus.
I’m not sure about those things, but I do have the sense that a soul won’t come down if it knows it’s not welcome.
The “Spiritual” Contraceptive Method
OK, here comes woo-woo. Avoid this section if you don’t believe in “spiritual” stuff.
I have no statistics for this method XD but I feel that it’s possible to prevent pregnancy by simply telling the soul not to come down.
With my girlfriend, we make it clear that we don’t want a baby right now, and then we do the other methods. I wouldn’t recommend anyone to *only* do the “spiritual” contraceptive method, unless they were very connected with their intution and knew for sure it was going to work.
Our intution tells us strongly that we’re not going to have a child unless we really want one. I could communicate with a potential baby before it came down if I wanted to, and I have a strong feeling that no, it’s not going to come down unless we say we want it. Why would anyone come to a place where they were not wanted?
I think this rule serves for conscious people and not for unconscious people, as unconscious people don’t have a sense that they can really choose, and may communicate with their actions that they are not in control as well. Because of this, they’ll never really get out there and send a clear signal to the Above regarding their choices in this area.
I repeat, depend on this contraceptive method at your peril. At the very least, doing other contraceptive methods will help send a clear message to the Above. If you are being careless in this area, perhaps you are sending an unconscious message that you do want a baby or you don’t care if you have an unplanned pregnancy. The message you send is what will be responded to.
At the very least, give this some serious study before trying as an exclusive method. But you already know that, right?
Natural Contraceptive Methods
So that’s how me and my girlfriend do things. I don’t write this as an attempt at being an authority on natural contraceptive methods — I’d just like to inspire you to make new questions. The pharmaceutical industry has drowned out the voice of alternative info in the West, but if you search you will find. I for one just can’t get enough of that condom-free sex, mmmmm……..