I’m consistent with my use of gender pronouns or suffixes for myself.
What I still get wrong sometimes when I’m not thinking about it is whether sleeping with a woman is considered “heterosexual” or “homosexual” for me.
My subsconscious mind still attaches some level of guilt and shame to being with a man, and not with being with a woman. And the word “homosexual” still has that subconscious guilt to it. So I guess that’s why I get that one mixed up.
Twin studies on homosexual and transgender people: it turns out that identical twins, who share DNA, are both gay if one of them is gay approximately 30% of the time. That is, 30% of identical twin pairs who have at least one gay twin are both gay.
There are less transgender identical twins to study, but it seems that 7 out of 17 documented identical twin couples who had one transgender twin were both transgender.
This info comes to me through an inexcusably homophobic site, but seeing as I don’t draw the same conclusions as they do, I can still use the information.
If you want to review it, see here.
When you have a gay or lesbian friend, you realise, they aren’t a gay, or a lesbian, they are people. Their sexuality is only really a small aspect of that, just like a predilection to cars or hamburgers is just a small aspect of anyone’s personhood. You like cars, I like dicks XD Same thing really. Same no-thing.”
If men couldn’t do what a woman generally does, there would be no gay men.
I think it’s some kind of Universal rule that nothing – no personal quality – is exclusive to anyone. We make boxes, but nature doesn’t. Everything that is in a human, can be found in every human.
Having recently dealt with all of my “stuff”, fears and so on, regarding my gender identity, it’s a strange experience now to be thinking clearly about my gender, somehow for the first time. It’s like I can finally weigh up the facts without all that panic seeping in and clouding everything.
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