Finding a spiritual teacher is hard and you are more likely to get mixed up with false teachers than truly spiritual people unless you are careful. Remember that spirituality is something that has to come from the inside, and that all life is spiritual, not just when you think you are being spiritual. That said, here are some pointers for finding a good teacher or mentor or at least avoiding bad teachers:
Spirituality is not about appearances; by its definition, it’s about what goes beyond appearances.
What’s inside can get expressed outside but not always.
And what is an expression of spirituality might not look like what you expect it to look like.
Do you look for your spiritual teacher in the guy who seems most peaceful, most loving, most wise?
Or do you look for your teacher in the person who is least interested in appearing so?
Do you want a teacher who knows better than you?
Or do you want a teacher who reminds you that you already know?
Can you be friends with your spiritual teacher? Can you teach him or her in return? Or do they already know everything they need to know about everything?
When looking for a teacher, keep a look out for how they make you feel. If you feel smaller and they bigger in any way, even just because they know more, then they are not your teacher… unless the Universe wants you to learn self-esteem like it did for me 😉