October 29, 2015

Affirmations For Self Love

Over time I’ve worked out various phrases that help me hone in on a sense of self love. They are not all affirmations (despite the title), as I also find questions to be rather useful for focusing the attention. But they all have a place in my current practice of self-love affirmation. I need to use more or less of these depending on how hard it is for me to locate my feeling of self […]
August 25, 2015

How To Love Yourself

I feel like I’ve been making some serious progress with self love. As I explained in my previous post on the subject, I’ve gone through a gradual evolution here. First, I noticed that I didn’t like aggressive forms of self motivation (“self discipline”). While working on that, I found a question that seemed to get to the root of how I could motivate myself gently: “How can I be kind to myself right now?”. This question […]
June 22, 2015

There Is No Difference Between Other-Love And Self Love

As I’m in the process of learning self-love and self-kindness, I’ve started to think about certain double standards. Socially speaking, it’s acceptable to talk about yourself in abusive ways. You can say about yourself that you’re ugly, stupid, useless, and so on. If you started speaking like this to someone else, saying that they were ugly or stupid or whatever, they would rightly get very angry at you. In a way, it’s a little better to speak like this to yourself than […]
June 18, 2015

Being Kind To Yourself With Money

As you know if you follow this blog, some time ago I learnt to develop my self-love by frequently asking myself, “Am I being kind to myself?”. I’ve recently been discovering interesting things when I apply this question to the realm of money, which until now in my life seems to have been strongly influenced by my lack of self-compassion. Living With Almost No Money A bit more than a year ago (A year ago? It seems […]
May 10, 2015

Self Love

A long time ago, I had a psychic reading with Erin Pavlina that changed my life. One thing that Erin told me was, “It’s all about self love and self forgiveness. All of it.” At the time, this phrase really didn’t resonate with me. Though I was primed to believe what Erin told me, since so much of what she was saying was hitting home, I think part of me might have suspected this to […]
February 4, 2015

A Revelation In Self Love

Christmas and New Year were very stressful for me, for a number of reasons. One of the reasons was that my landlord, who in order to support my projects had been giving me free rent for some time, asked me to start paying rent. This would require a change in lifestyle for me, one which I wasn’t sure if I was ready for. Last year had been characterised by a struggle to stay above the […]
December 8, 2013

Why I Disagree With “Love Yourself First”

As I briefly mentioned in a previous note, I recently went through a rather strong depression for about a month and a half, due to the loss of my primary relationship partner. (I’d like to avoid going into too many details, but this loss was first my partner choosing to move away, and then it finally evolved into an actual breakup). You may be happy to know I seem to be finally moving out of […]